Who am I if I don't do what I used to do?
You know that moment in the car when the voice giving directions goes quiet, and the little dot on the screen sits in a blank field?
Signal lost. Everything that got you this far has stopped talking.
That’s the liminal. Unknown terrain, where the old GPS doesn’t work. You might have arrived by choice, you might have been pushed, or you might have drifted there so quietly that you only noticed when nothing fit anymore. Whichever road brought you, the ground is the same, and the first casualty is the identity that got you to this crossing.
In this solo episode, I talk from the middle of my own crossing about why letting go of that identity is so hard, even when we want to. For a long time I thought experience was supposed to work like a how-to. It turns out it’s more like a muscle. It can’t tell you how to do the new thing, but it crosses with you.
I also talk about the body, which takes longer than the mind to metabolize a crossing, and often knows first what the mind is avoiding.
The mind issues the official version, “I’ve moved on,” while the body is still stitching. I kept thinking about this in front of the Bayeux Tapestry, the victors’ version of 1066, most likely stitched by English hands. Its last panel is lost, so the story stops at the battle, as if everything after were settled. We tell our own crossings that way too: the event, and nothing after. But the event is only the doorway.
The liminal is what comes after.
And I talk about romance, which hands us the last panel the tapestry lost, and why knowing the happy ending is coming still can’t tell us how arriving will feel.
There’s a summer of heartbreak in here too, and a tree I still can’t name.
I’m teaching The Liminal: Crossing the Threshold into Unfamiliar Terrain on three Saturdays this December. It’s for anyone standing at a crossing, whether you chose it, it chose you, or the life you’ve been living has quietly stopped fitting and you can’t yet say why.
December 5, the landscape and its guides. We begin under the balsamic moon, the dark just before the new one, and meet the ones who walk this terrain with us: Hermes and the Threshold Lover. You’ll take the Threshold Lover Quiz beforehand, so you arrive having met one of your guides.
December 12, the phases. A crossing moves, and each part of it asks something different. The lunar cycle gives us a way of seeing where you are in it. No astrology knowledge needed.
December 19, the conditions. Two days before the solstice, we look at what the crossing is doing to you, and the practices that honor it.
Each session moves through love stories, teaching, and time to share and ask. You’ll come away with a way to name where you are in the crossing’s movement, what it’s doing to you, and who’s walking it with you. What you do with the map is yours.
Sessions run from 10:00 to 11:30 am Pacific on Zoom. Everything is recorded, with replays through January 5.
It’s $125 and enrollment closes December 4 at 7:00 pm Pacific.
Come walk your liminal ground in good company.
